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Re: Lodging
« Reply #40 on: January 25, 2008, 04:06:53 PM »
Yeah I'm thinking.... here's the key, go warm the car up granny! lol
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #41 on: January 25, 2008, 05:42:35 PM »
LOL!  Give 'em all a good show !  Do that little leg kick thing too.  :-)

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #42 on: January 25, 2008, 05:47:53 PM »
I don't like taking his family along because I never get a word in and my husband always tells me not to bring them until next year.

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #43 on: January 25, 2008, 06:28:46 PM »
Schrader,

 :-D that is too funny but oh so true. My Guy doesn't want his family in on our visits either simply because after 10 mins of catching up then what is there to say. So, they spend the rest of the time trying to make chit chat or listening to us and I can't say things I would normally say in front of them. When they tell me they are going I say enjoy your visit and no thanks I don't want to go with.

Waid, I would certainly find a way to get that kiss in!!!!
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #44 on: January 25, 2008, 10:14:38 PM »
I'm fairly certain after just the hassle of figuring out if they can go or if they need to be picked up, them making it only a day trip instead of overnight as I'd like, the awkwardness of all day with them& not being free to act as I want with my lover, is SOOOOO not worth sharing the gas for me. It will not be a regular thing, I can tell ya already! I'll probably not be able to contain it, I haven't seen him in 2 months so I'm sure after a 4 hour trip with grandma complaining the grandkids never come see her & his shy brother not saying much at all. I'll hug him a very long time & say rescue me! lol Then getting to sit right next to him at the table & up at the vending machines, will probably not be able to contain it on leaving either! lol

So I'm goin with DTC's suggestion of a good show & give em something to talk about to the other relatives to scare them away from asking to go with me next time lol
Besides I figure if I can get away with it from watchfull CO's, I'm not gonna let granny effect the smooches I deserve! Just have to have some small talk ideas for the hours in between???
I'm thinking to tap granny's mind on his childhood moments, Italian language lessons we're learning & about a trip to Italy we have as a goal.
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #45 on: January 25, 2008, 10:23:20 PM »
No questions to granny about her first kiss? bling



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Re: Lodging
« Reply #46 on: January 25, 2008, 10:28:03 PM »
i actually have done several shared visits with his mom.  She is a great person and I always enjoy her company...so it works out fine.

Of course we are different when she is there....but thats fine...Our relationship is not all about sex.  We also love family time.  We are going to be married one day and family is important. 

What I do is when she is there, I always have her hug him first...then while she is sitting I kiss him.  Then on the way out she says goodbye first and then she walks away to the front while we say goodbye.

We get a few moments when she goes to the vending machine. 


He actually thinks its funny to find a subtle way to tease each other in a secretive way that only we understand.


Enjoy the time no matter the situation.  Every moment we get during this chaos rocks

Kissssessssssssss  (just save the tounge on the one visit! haha)

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #47 on: January 26, 2008, 12:52:42 AM »
i actually have done several shared visits with his mom.  She is a great person and I always enjoy her company...so it works out fine.

Of course we are different when she is there....but thats fine...Our relationship is not all about sex.  We also love family time.  We are going to be married one day and family is important. 

What I do is when she is there, I always have her hug him first...then while she is sitting I kiss him.  Then on the way out she says goodbye first and then she walks away to the front while we say goodbye.

We get a few moments when she goes to the vending machine. 


He actually thinks its funny to find a subtle way to tease each other in a secretive way that only we understand.


Enjoy the time no matter the situation.  Every moment we get during this chaos rocks

Kissssessssssssss  (just save the tounge on the one visit! haha)

we are handle it pretty the same when it comes to his mom.. he actually tell his mom to get something for him to eat so we can talk privately and she takes her time giving us our own privacy.. and she hugs him first when saying hi and i dont care about her being there or not i have to have my tongue action even if its only a few second.. also she says by first and i get the last hug and toungue action again.. lol.. she did say "okay thats enough" lol.. it is weird if you're there with someone.. you cant really talk about each other because you dont want to sound too in-love, lovey dovey in front of others.. but hey its always better to drive with someone than be alone  :)

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #48 on: January 26, 2008, 08:46:23 PM »
I really don't think his gma is going to mind.  I am sure she's given the tounge!  Not to be disrespectful but she's been there I'm sure and if it was her man and she hardly ever got to see him...she'd wanna a "really good kiss" too! 
Give him a great kiss and make me proud~!
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #49 on: January 26, 2008, 11:05:46 PM »
I hope you had a nice visit! and Sarai, i know exactly what guy you are talking about!!  LOL 123123  he looks like that!! LOL

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #50 on: January 27, 2008, 01:19:51 AM »
broken...he does!  HAHA  >?)^%



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Re: Lodging
« Reply #51 on: January 28, 2008, 12:44:11 AM »
So many tales to tell, but in a nutshell, I'm over the 1s time with family jitters, heres how it went:
Everyone bailed except granny. We had some good conversations on how she grew up & met her husband, then we actually have the same opinions on work ethics, spoiled children these days, his crazy family & his daughters mother lol She kept touching my arm, thanking me for supporting him & inviting her to go, so I think we bonded. lol
I got my kisses!! Neither 1 of us was shy about it & he started it, I just followed suit. lol That night in the hotel, I brought it up that I was kinda worried about showing affection in front of her & she said are you kidding, I don't think he kissed you enough! Go granny, I agree! She told him something to the effect of her blessing on what a good woman I am for him. This coming from the old school Italian matriarch, I hope the fool recognizes her wisdom.
Both days we had conversations all together, they would talk about people I didn't know & I would just feel his muscles & rub the hair off his arm lol, then when him & I started having conversations about his legal stuff, about us or our kids, she actually got up & grabbed a religious book & read quietly. On leaving, she'd say good bye first, then start out to the guardshack herself. I guess we were curteous & respectful of each others time with him.
She did take a nap on the way home & when I dropped her off she said I'm sorry I wasn't much company, but I figure you'd heard enough of my mouth so I just shut up & listened to the music. She enjoyed my Michael Buble cd, which is a new crooner with remakes of Sinatra, Dean Martin & big band jazz hits.
Although I wouldn't want to offer it every time, it was nice to share that with them. Thanks for the support!
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #52 on: January 28, 2008, 08:48:35 AM »
You know, anyone who has lived a long time has seen and experienced many things.  The beautiful part of a matriarch is that they keep the family together, regardless of society's "woes" on someone's actions.  She obviously feels that you are going to continue in the tradition that is important to her: loyalty and love.

Indeed, your loved one is lucky to have both you and a loving matriarchal grandmother.

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #53 on: February 17, 2009, 07:57:13 PM »
Can anyone tell me if there agape houses like the ones aroumd missouri prisons.     they verify you are on a inmates visiting list and then let you sleep there while visiting for a very cheap price. is there anything like this in illinois that may help me visit my wife i have a very low budget for me and our son to see her. please and thank you

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #54 on: February 17, 2009, 08:52:48 PM »
There are hospitality houses near several prisons in Illinois. I know of the one near Menard in Chester. They charge a very reasonable rate (the last I heard it was $10/night, but that was several years ago) and you need to bring your own linens.
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #55 on: February 17, 2009, 11:42:11 PM »
There's another one in Vienna, same price etc. it's on another thread here on the forum I do believe. What facility is your wife in ?
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #56 on: February 17, 2009, 11:43:26 PM »
Hospitality House of Vienna
504 W Vine St, Vienna IL
618-658-2722

They ask for a donation , of $10.00 a night, call in advance to reserve a room. There is no smoking, but there is a kitchen and dining and living area for all, you can bring your own food/drinks. Bathrooms in the rooms, very nice place run by a Christian group/Church. Just google it, and you will see where it is located at.
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Re: Lodging
« Reply #57 on: February 18, 2009, 12:39:27 AM »
Thanks my wife is in dwight at the moment but may get transfered to lincoln or decatur are there hospitality house by dwight  lincoln and decatur

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Re: Lodging
« Reply #58 on: February 18, 2009, 02:10:44 AM »
Well the hospitality house in chester which is for the Menard Prison is now $15 a night an I don't know how much it is for kids but it's not a lot and yes you do have to take your own linen and things.  Well good luck with your search.
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Re: Lodging & Travel Questions
« Reply #59 on: August 01, 2009, 02:14:26 AM »
I am just a bit concerned about Stateviile closing the 1st of September. Just wondering if anyone knows of a campground around or near Thompson? I do not see where else they can send him? Even if it does not close now, it is going to happen sooner or later and I can't move closer and will always travel to see my boy. Just trying to plan ahead.
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